She is always complaining...

It just introduces so much negativity that is unnecessary. Is there anything I can do?

My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year and, in all that time, I have never felt as if she appreciates me or this relationship. She complains about a lot of things in general, but even our dates feel as if they don’t match up to some standard she has in her mind. I have come to accept that this is just who she is, and I have begun to prepare myself in advance before we go out, but I can’t help feeling as if this is a little unfair and that I don’t enjoy spending time with her as much as I should. I love her a lot and don’t doubt her feelings for me, but I can’t ignore the possibility that I will have to break up if this continues. It just introduces so much negativity that is unnecessary. Is there anything I can do?
It’s nice that you accept this as a behavioural characteristic, but the truth is it won’t matter if that clashes with what you expect from this relationship. You can either tell her that this friction may lead to permanent damage or temper your expectations which may start to feel more unfair than it already is. The onus of fixing this lies on your girlfriend, but she also has a right to ask you to accept her the way she is. If that occurs, the call is yours. Stay and accept it or do what you think is good for you.

How do I convince my boyfriend to consider a long-term relationship where we will have children? I am okay with marriage, but he is adamant about not wanting a family. His reasons are sound, but it also makes him feel like a cold person.
If he is being clear about what he wants, and that isn’t what you are prepared to accept, you can either arrive at a compromise or accept that this isn’t working out. Successful relationships are about meeting in the middle, which doesn’t always happen. 

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