I believe we can work this out!

If he refuses, you should speak to family and friends about the impact this will have on your own future, and make a decision based on what that looks like

My husband has lost interest in me and has begun expressing interest in another woman. He wants a divorce and says there is no hope for our future together. This is not a surprise to me because things have been stressful in our marriage for a few years, but I always assumed we would pull through because we have known each other for a long time. We dated for three years and have been married for four, so I thought of this as a lifelong commitment even though we had more than our share of ups and downs. I want to consider speaking to a professional counsellor, but he doesn’t want to and is convinced this is over. I don’t even know if this is because of his infatuation with this woman. How can I get him to give our marriage another chance?
Infatuation or not, counselling has a chance of working only if both partners are committed to putting in the work. If your husband has already written off this marriage and isn’t committed to a future with you, there’s nothing you can do because the onus of trying to make it work doesn’t lie on you alone. You can suggest a trial separation until he has a chance of figuring out his own feelings, although that has its own risks because it can go either way. I suggest you ask him if he wants to give it one last chance or meet with a counsellor for a few sessions to see if this can be salvaged. If he refuses, you should speak to family and friends about the impact this will have on your own future, and make a decision based on what that looks like.

Is a long-term relationship worth the effort? My boyfriend is moving away and wants us to continue as a couple, but I don’t know if this can work if I only see him once a year.
That depends upon your feelings, and how badly you want him in your life. 

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