Want to cut ties with my sister...

Is this a good idea or am I being too hasty and giving up on my family too easily?

My sister and I have been fighting for a few years and it has begun to affect my mental health. We are very different people and can’t see eye to eye on a lot of issues, which has affected our relationship to a large extent. I have been invited to a family get-together a month from now, where she will be present, too, and I have been thinking about cutting her out of my life because it’s just not worth the effort. It is taking a toll on me and affecting other areas of my life, and this is no longer something I want to try and fix because there is no solution. Is this a good idea or am I being too hasty and giving up on my family too easily?
You’re an adult, as is your sister. The notion that we must stick to people simply because they happen to be members of our family can have a devastating impact on our lives, because we don’t choose our families. To use an accident of birth as an excuse to punish yourself is neither healthy, nor recommended in the long run. Your health matters more than anything else, and if this relationship cannot be fixed, you have to do what it takes to cope, even if this means not engaging with your sister. There will be some guilt involved, which is understandable, but you can track the benefits of not fighting and see the results for yourself before making any permanent decision.

I have been married for around a decade, and my wife recently decided to quit her job and says she doesn’t want to work anymore. She did this without asking for my advice and I think it’s unfair because the amount of pressure on me is suddenly huge. How do I get her to change her mind?
The two of you have a responsibility to run your household as equal partners, and she needs to understand the impact of her decision upon your joint finances. 

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