He thinks his ex is better than me

That is something you alone can answer. Give yourself time, meet him more often, and think about whether his absence will change anything

I have been with this guy for over a year, and always feel as if no matter how things are between us, I may never measure up to his ex-girlfriend. He constantly compares us even though I tell him we are different people with minds and ideas of our own. He hates his ex which is why their relationship didn’t work out, but he also admires her for things that he never sees in me. He talks about her good taste, her calm demeanour, her behaviour in public, and I always end up looking bad by comparison. I am sick of it and have told him to break up if he can’t find anything good about me. He still insists that he loves me and that he only mentions her to make me work on some things, but I find his attitude obnoxious and don’t know if this is working for me. What should I do?
You have already done the right thing by asking him to go back to her if he thinks you don’t measure up. If he doesn’t appreciate you for who you are, this is not a relationship worth holding on to. It’s also disrespectful. A relationship should be about people treating each other as equals, not as one person choosing to transform the other into some acceptable pattern or idea. He clearly doesn’t think you match up to some imaginary ideal in his head, and this will only start to affect you and your self-esteem. It’s not healthy and you should put yourself first whenever you make your decision about this.

Why do I not feel happy when I meet my boyfriend? We love each other, but he is always more excited to see me than I am to be with him. Is this a sign that I may be forcing myself to like him more than I really do?
That is something you alone can answer. Give yourself time, meet him more often, and think about whether his absence will change anything.

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