Why does she still talk to her ex?

If you have met a few times, and clearly like each other’s company, why not just ask what her intentions are

My girlfriend and I are engaged and have been together for a year-and-a-half, but she always checks on her ex-boyfriend every other week. She comments on his Facebook posts, they wish each other on their birthdays, and I know she wants to invite him to our wedding, too. I am not possessive or jealous, but I wonder why she stays in touch with him given that they had a nasty break-up. She often says she was miserable with him, but then she goes ahead and has these conversations with him as if nothing bad happened. Should I ask her to explain, or just drop this? I don’t want to upset her, but I just find the whole thing to be a little strange.
You haven’t said anything about your own relationship with your fiancé. Are you both happy? Does this seem like a strong and loving bond? Do you communicate easily and openly? Are there things you both discuss with reference to your future and what you both expect from this marriage? Those are the questions that ought to matter. If your fiancé chooses to maintain a connection with her ex, despite their past, she is probably making a choice as an adult. If this bothers you, nothing stops you from asking for an explanation. It’s always best to come right out and speak about what’s on your mind though, because ignoring these things leads to them festering and turning into something unpleasant as time passes. Tell her what’s bothering you and focus on your relationship with her. Everything else is just background noise.

We met on an online dating site and have gone out a few times. I don’t know if I am in a relationship even though it feels like it. She doesn’t say anything about us, but always asks when we are meeting next, so I don’t know what this means.
If you have met a few times, and clearly like each other’s company, why not just ask what her intentions are?

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