One assumes they both care about you, and have your best interests at heart, so it’s hard to imagine this continuing for too long. Ask them about the argument, insist on them communicating, and ask your boyfriend to apologise if your mother feels disrespected
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My mother and boyfriend got into an argument a week ago, and they now tell me they can’t stand the sight of each other. I am torn apart because I don’t want to upset either of them, but this whole thing has blown out of proportion, and it is now getting to a stage where my mother says she won’t speak to me if I continue being in a relationship with him. She doesn’t see how unfair this is, or how much I love and care about him, which is heart-breaking because I wasn’t even around when this argument happened and don’t have anything to do with it. How do I resolve this? I don’t want to break up, but I can’t live in the same house with a parent who won’t speak to me. What should I do?
You have to hold a mirror to them both, so they recognise how immature and childish they are being. I suggest you sit down with them both and ask them to sort out their differences because of how unfair they are being to you. If they refuse, you may simply have to grin and bear things until they see how ridiculous this is and how it is affecting you. One assumes they both care about you, and have your best interests at heart, so it’s hard to imagine this continuing for too long. Ask them about the argument, insist on them communicating, and ask your boyfriend to apologise if your mother feels disrespected.
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I want to get my girlfriend to be more demonstrative when we are in public, but she is shy and doesn’t even like holding my hand. How do I get her to change?
Why do you need her to prove something to you in public if she is in a relationship with you that is meant to be private? You can’t expect her to have the same level of comfort that you do. Maybe she will, in her own time, so why not give her space?
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