You can put across an explanation but the choice of accepting or rejecting it will still be hers
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I broke up with my boyfriend after a two-year relationship and began dating a friend of his. We have now been together for a year, and I think it was one of the best decisions I have made. It didn’t feel wrong or awkward because he and I had more in common than my ex, but my ex took this to be an act of betrayal and stopped speaking to his friend. My current boyfriend understands why this happened, but constantly wishes he could mend that broken bond. I am tempted to reach out to my ex and explain why this happened, but also feel as if this is none of my business. I sometimes feel guilty because a friendship has ended but I did what I felt was right. I am happy with my boyfriend and feel as if he understands me more than my ex did. I don’t want to feel horrible about my decision, but it still bothers me a lot. Am I wrong to feel this way?
Everything you have described are acts and decisions made by adults. You did what was right for you and are with someone who values you. Your ex has chosen to treat this as an act of betrayal and has voluntarily chosen to end his friendship with your current boyfriend. You can’t hold yourself responsible for anything because your boyfriend is part of this decision. He chose to be with you, and the onus of fixing his broken friendship isn’t on you. I suggest you think only about your current relationship and where it’s going, and allow everything else to take its own course. Give your ex time and he may hopefully look upon this with maturity.
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You can put across an explanation but the choice of accepting or rejecting it will still be hers.
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