Should I keep trying to get in touch with her or accept that this is truly over and out of my control?
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My best friend and I had a huge fight a few months ago and decided never to speak to each other again. This is someone I grew up with and we have been friends for over three decades. I assumed it would blow over and she would come to her senses, but she is adamant that she doesn’t want me in her life. I reached out to her a few times, but she hasn’t responded, and has now blocked me everywhere so I can’t send her messages anymore. I am heartbroken, more because it feels as if she is okay with this decision. How do I move on from this? How do I forget that I no longer have someone who was in my life for years? Should I keep trying to get in touch with her or accept that this is truly over and out of my control?
Losing a loved one is always a matter of processing grief at various stages. What you are going through is something she may have already come to terms with, which may make it seem as if she is okay with losing you as a friend. You can keep trying to reach out, but a lack of response will only make it harder for you to begin the process of healing. If she changes her mind, she knows you are ready to welcome her back. If she decides to abandon this friendship and move on, there is nothing you can do but accept her decision. Either way, only time can help you find the tools you need to cope. Distract yourself with other things and other people and tell yourself that each day gives you a little more strength to carry on without her presence. A few months from now, you may surprise yourself by how you feel.
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