I’m married, can I meet my ex?

He says he would like to meet me in person, but I am not sure because I don’t trust how I feel. What should I do?

This is about something that happened before I was married. I had a relationship with a guy that lasted just two months, and we ended it because I didn’t like anything about him. We lost touch and I soon met the man I would marry. We have been together for five years now, and our marriage isn’t perfect, but we try and make it work. I recently got a message from this ex-boyfriend on Facebook, and he explained a lot of things about what he was going through when we dated. We have been chatting more often since then, and I have begun to see him in a completely different light. He wasn’t the person I thought he was, and I am beginning to regret how things ended between us. He says he would like to meet me in person, but I am not sure because I don’t trust how I feel. What should I do?
I’m not sure I understand the question. You’re married, but aren’t sure about how you feel? You regret how this ended, but the fact remains that it ended, and you married someone. What exactly do you hope to accomplish by meeting this ex-boyfriend? This happened in the past, after which you have both moved on with your lives, so what do you hope will change if you meet him in person? If you have doubts about your marriage that are making you unsure about something, it may make more sense to resolve them because that may give you clarity about and expectations from your current relationship.

My best friend wants me to date someone who is not interesting, but she thinks I need to give him a chance. Should I do this just to make her happy?
Trying to make someone else happy, instead of putting your interests first, rarely ends well. If you know your own mind, stick to it even if your friend thinks she is doing what is right for you.

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