He now speaks more to his ex!

You can always ask a colleague out for a cup of coffee or chat a little more at the office to try and gauge whether there is any reciprocal interest at all, before you decide to say anything

My boyfriend recently went on a holiday with friends and one of the people on the trip was his ex-girlfriend. I wasn’t there because I had work commitments, but he told me about it when he returned, and I got the feeling that they reconnected and had a heart-to-heart conversation about their past. Since that trip, he has been increasingly open about speaking to her more often and has begun talking about mistakes he made when they were together. I am happy about how this has changed his relationship with her but am also concerned because I am starting to feel as if I am being marginalised while he speaks to her more. What should I do?
You have a relationship with him that’s different from the one he shares with his ex. If you feel marginalised, you have every right to speak up and tell him why you feel the way you do. What he is going through is a process of learning, because it is making him re-evaluate the way he behaves with people. This can be a great thing if it helps him understand his relationship with you better. If you start to feel envious of conversations he is having with his ex, it may make more sense to focus on how the two of you communicate, and what you feel about each other, because it may imply that there needs to be more honesty. Give it some time, talk about how you feel, and worry about things only if and when you have reasons to.

I want to tell a girl in my office that I have feelings for her, but I don’t know how she will react and if this becomes a problem with my Human Resources department. Is it a bad idea?
You can always ask a colleague out for a cup of coffee or chat a little more at the office to try and gauge whether there is any reciprocal interest at all, before you decide to say anything. 

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