He is filled with resentment...

My boyfriend recently got into an argument with me about something rather trivial and it blew up into a massive fight. We said a lot of things to each other, and he ended up saying that this relationship was not working out for him at all. I got the feeling that there was a lot of resentment on his part for a long time and he just hadnt said anything to me about it. I was shocked and hurt, but also believe this relationship cannot be saved if he doesnt communicate. He was upset about things I had said or done a year ago, which I had no idea about. We havent spoken in two weeks, and I know he will get in touch when he has calmed down, but I am pretty sure I want to break up because there is no way of knowing if this will occur again. He doesnt say whats on his mind, and this then ends up hurting us both. Is this a good idea?Youre right about poor communication being a serious issue, but this involves you too because there is a certain amount of work that both partners have to put in. The onus of figuring out whats on his mind isnt on you, obviously, but it takes a while before two people in a relationship learn how to be more open about what theyre struggling with. If he hasnt been able to for all this time, you should also think about whether you can or should do more to encourage dialogue. This could also be his personality, in which case there is little you can do, but I suggest you base your decision on how much hope you have of things changing. If he comes back with concrete suggestions about how things can get better, and how this relationship can evolve, you can both give it a second chance. If nothing changes, or if you have to keep prodding him to speak, it may be easier to give up. The inbox is now open to take your most carnal and amorous queries. Send your questions on email to lovedoc@mid-day.com