He has since begun to act as if I am chasing him and treats me like a dog. Please help. What should I do
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I have been in a relationship with someone for a few years and have begun to have feelings for someone I met via a dating app. That person showed a lot of interest towards me on the first day but began ignoring me from the second day. He has since begun to act as if I am chasing him and treats me like a dog. Please help. What should I do?
I’m not sure what kind of help you need, given that this person has made his feelings very clear. If he isn’t interested and treats you with no respect, why entertain the idea of being with him? Also, if you have been in a relationship with someone for years, why aren’t you considering the possibility that it probably isn’t working as well as it should? If you are interested in other people, doesn’t that point to a problem with the person you’re with? I suggest you forget about this person you met online and think about whom you spend time with in real life. Give yourself some space to try and figure out what you’re doing and why.
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I am concerned about moving to a new city with my boyfriend because I don’t know anyone there and may be helpless if our relationship doesn’t work out. He has family there, so he is not that vulnerable. If I refuse to go, our relationship may end. Should I risk a long-distance relationship?
Moving in with someone you aren’t sure about is a risk in any city, but you won’t know where you stand in this relationship until you make that move. Your concerns are valid, but there are practical things you can do to make sure you feel more secure. Think about your finances, for instance, and consider the possibility of making new friends. Also, share your fears with your partner because honest and open communication can strengthen your bond and help you both cope with how your situation will evolve in the coming months.
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