He constantly makes fun of me...

My husband and I have been together for seven years. He has never respected me much because he thinks what I do for a living isnt important. He is a senior executive in a company and earns four times what I do, which makes him feel as if he has made the right choices in life while I have made poor ones. I disagree with this because I have made choices that make sense to me. What I earn doesnt define who I am or what I am worth, and it saddens me that he doesnt want to see my side of things. He belittles me whenever he gets a chance and has also insulted my profession in front of other people. When I confront him, he asks me not to take it seriously, but how can I not? This is disrespectful at every level. I used to think he would change as we lived together longer, but everything is just the way it used to be. He doesnt learn and I am starting to feel as if he will make fun of me for the rest of my life. I dont want to live with a person who doesnt respect me even though he claims to love me. What should I do?You should tell him that his words and actions do not match. There is no place for disrespect in a marriage, and he needs to get that message. If you dont stand up for yourself in front of him, and in public, you are letting yourself down and allowing him to get away with behaviour for which there is no excuse. If he doesnt change, youre right about not being able to live with this for the rest of your life. I suggest you give him an ultimatum and tell him that you are considering what this marriage means to you. If that doesnt make him take it seriously and fix things, its obvious that he doesnt value you as much as he claims to. The inbox is now open to take your most carnal and amorous queries. Send your questions on email to lovedoc@mid-day.com