I don’t know how to deal with this because it makes me feel as if I am hiding something from my parents
Illustration/Uday Mohite
My neighbour and I had a short affair months ago. Our parents don’t know anything about it, but this has started to get a little awkward because they know each other, and we keep meeting each other during festivals and other occasions. She and I haven’t chatted since we broke up but are often forced to pretend to be nice to each other because we run into each other so often when our parents are with us. I don’t know how to deal with this because it makes me feel as if I am hiding something from my parents. I can’t say anything though, because I don’t know how they will react or how their relations with our neighbours may be affected. I feel guilty because this could have been avoided. What should I do? What happens if my neighbour tells her parents about this, and they confront me at my home?
You are jumping to all kinds of conclusions simply because you haven’t spoken to your neighbour about what she has in mind. If you both feel as if this can harm your parents in some way, nothing stops you from behaving like adults and choosing to withhold information or act more civil around each other. Awkwardness after the end of a relationship is normal but doesn’t have to last for the rest of your lives either, if you can simply talk about what the problem is. Assuming neither of you is interested in leaving home and moving to another city, it’s obvious that you are going to be in each other’s orbits for a while to come, so why not try and make it as smooth as possible by hashing this out in the open? Send her a message, meet for coffee, and tell her what’s on your mind. Why assume things when you have a simpler way out?
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