My best friend from college now tells me that she misses me only 80 per cent of the time. How come she never messages me, in that case?
She misses me but never calls or messages me!
Dear Diana,
My best friend from college now tells me that she misses me only 80 per cent of the time. How come she never messages me, in that case? It takes less than 30 seconds to message someone. Also, I don't want to bother her or she may think I am nagging her. She may be busy but still finds time for other activities except for me. I meanu2026 she could at least message me saying she's okay. That's all I am asking for. Are we just buddies for namesakes? When people ask me about her, I say I have no idea. Nobody believes that I am fed up of her excuses. What should I do? I tell her and she says I am wrong about her. If someone misses you so much, shouldn't you give him or her a call or at least message them?
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Zaara
Dear Zaara,
Stringing together percentages will only serve to depress you more and show you how pointless it is to be friends with someone who doesn't value time spent with you. That said, I feel you are being over-possessive of a friend. Just because you miss her all the time doesn't mean she has to, as well. I agree it takes little time to message someone, but I also feel that she doesn't feel obliged to update you on every minute of her life. I feel you are over-reacting and that you should give her some space. Don't bother calling her for a few days and I'm sure that if she misses you, she'll come running back to you. If not, she has been taking you for granted this far and will continue to for a considerable period of time hence. Deal with it.
Can we have sex daily without condoms?
Dear Diana,
I have sex with my wife once daily using condoms. We've been married four years now. We don't want children. Can we not use condoms and still have sex without fear of an unwanted pregnancy?
ABC
Dear Friend,
Only something irrevocable as having a vasectomy or in your wife's case, having her tubes tied could ensure a reasonable degree of surety that you could have sex without fear of pregnancy. Wouldn't you want to have kids in the future, though?
I'll treat her child as my own...
Dear Diana,
I am in love with a girl who is married with a child. She loves me too (I think). Despite not doing so well in her married life, she isn't thinking about us at this point; she is worried about her child. Somehow, we have not been able to discuss about her child. I want to get married to her and I want to communicate to her that I'd bring up, love and care for her child as we'd do for our own. I don't want to do anything that would affect our friendship. How do I communicate this to her?
Name withheld on request
Dear Friend,
She's in a failed marriage. Why would she want to dive into another headlong immediately after the first? These are matters of the future. For now, simply concentrate in aiding her through a difficult time. Be there for her when she needs you the most. Although, it would be best to make your intentions clear at the outset. And simply be yourself around her kid. If you're the genuine deal, it will come across. You won't even have to try. Right now, what is important is that she has to have a sort of support system to fall back on after a divorce. Secondly, she needs to win custody of her child for it to even be a part of your (and her) future.
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