She has her hubby but wants me too!

Updated on: 22 September,2011 08:56 AM IST |
Diana |

I've been seeing a married woman for a while now. When I came into her life, she was having a lot of problems with her husband

Dear Diana,
I've been seeing a married woman for a while now. When I came into her life, she was having a lot of problems with her husband. We stay in the same neighbourhood. She was looking for a confidant but we ended up being close and getting intimate. I was her shoulder to cry on. But I would always tell her tou00a0 work on her relationship with her husband and save her marriage. I also used to tell her that we should end our relationship. There was this guilt feeling as I knew that what I was doing was wrong and that it was an extra-marital affair for her. But now she loves us both and won't end either relationship. My problem is that I care for her and want to help her. I am not sure what the future holds for us. Can you help clear my confused mind?
-u00a0PK

Illustration/ Satish Acharya

Dear PK,
Why do you want to carry on with a relationship which spells disaster? It will leave both of you scarred. The woman has got everything she wantsu00a0-- the excitement of an affair and a loving husband at home ufffd she's not likely to want to change the scene.u00a0 It is you who will have to walk away. Just think you are having an affair with a woman who has sorted out her problems with her husband. Your presence in her life is her fantasy come trueu00a0-- a dream guy who cares for her. But at the end there will be nothing left for you. You have to leave the scene as soon as possible and wish her a happy married life. It will be difficult but this is the best for you.