I have a 27-year-old friend. Her boss has proposed marriage to her. He has also told her all about his past flings, including the physical relationships he has had
Dear Diana,
I have a 27-year-old friend. Her boss has proposed marriage to her. He has also told her all about his past flings, including the physical relationships he has had. The guy smokes and drinks. However, he has promised to keep her happy forever. Also, he has started working someplace else. My friend likes this guy but is afraid he will treat her like all the other girls in his life. 
She wants marriage, she's sure about that. Also, he gets very suspicious about her. Surprisingly though, they never fight when they're together. What I don't understand is, if he loves her enough to change his ways this much, why be so possessive and ask for clarifications about everything. If he loves her, he should trust her, no? What should I do as a friend watching from the sidelines?
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
In my knowledge, overtly possesive men are always bad news. It is in their grain to not trust anyone women, and over the years it only gets worse. I think you should tell your friend that more than his roving eye, you are more worried about his suspecting nature. Smoking and drinking doesn't make soemone a bad guy. But if he is an alcoholic, that's a BIG problem. Your friend wants marriage but what does the guy want? Has he brought up the M word?u00a0 maybe see where this is going. Maybe you are worrying too much. And they will never get to the marriage phase.u00a0
Will kissing, sleeping around give me aids?
Dear Diana,
I've kissed two girls (separately) on the lips several times. And I have also slept with a boy once, though I wasn't interested. Could I contract AIDS or something because of this?
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Giri
Dear Giri,
Kissing on the lips doesnt give you AIDS. Unless there was biting and you come in contact with the blood of an infected person. Sleeping with the boy, if unprotected could raise a few red flags. I would suggest you go in for an HIV test. If nothing else, it will put your mind to rest.
Can't married friends stay friends?
Dear Diana,
We've been friends for three years now but the trouble is, we're both married. We don't have a physical relationship going on but I feel I am cheating on my husband and that he is cheating on his wife. We share a lot about each other with each other. However, I think it isn't allowed in our customs to be friends with another woman's husband. We can't avoid each other. He knows me better than I do. Only trouble is, he's a guy in stead of a gal. What should I do?
Sweety
Dear Sweety,
You are not doing anything wrong. Just because you are married, it doesn't mean that you are not allowed male friends. And if isn't as if you are sleeping with him. You are not having an affair. And you both seem to bring joy to each other. Nothing wrong with that. Friends meet, talk, spend time together, offer each other support and love and respect each other. And you both seem to have that. Just because he is a guy and not a gal, there is no reason to be stressed about it. I would however worry if tehre was attraction between you both. Because then you need to tread carefully. You dont want to destory his and your marriage.
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