I have been married almost five years. I was really young at the time; it was the day after my 18th birthday. I love my husband very much, but I don't think I am in love with him anymore
Dear Diana,
I have been married almost five years. I was really young at the time; it was the day after my 18th birthday. I love my husband very much, but I don't think I am in love with him anymore. I am extremely attracted to another man. This has happened once before maybe like a year and a half after we got married, back then I crossed the line, I got with the other man. Well, it's happening again. I haven't crossed the line this time. I don't know what to do, I have three kids with him that we love very much. But I can strongly say that I don't feel anything for him. I don't want to have sex anymore with him. I am very confused and don't dare talk to him about it for the fear he will think that I have already cheated again.
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
There will always be attractions. You are supposed to feel attractions. You might not be attracted to your husband because the relationship has slipped. What happens if you leave your husband for the new guy and then become attracted to another guy, then another, then another. Eventually you have to decide what you really want, constant attraction or a "relationship". You can not save a relationship if you've decided the attraction of something new is more enticing. It's difficult to get excited about an old faithful dog on the porch when you see a new puppy. You have to undestand all the aspects of what defines the "value" of a relationship
She lied about being a virgin
Dear Diana,
My wife and I have being married four years. I only just found out that she had a hymen reconstruction. I thought we were both virgins. I feel like cheating on her for what she did to me. What do you think I should do?
Name withheld
Dear Friend,
She was wrong, and she should have given you this information BEFORE the wedding. I am not condoning her behaviour but I do think she did what she did to try to be what you wanted. Think about this long and hard, and if you don't believe you can get past it then you need to make some hard decisions.
I can't stand his family!
Dear Diana,
I've been with my boyfriend for two years and I love him to bits, I just can't stand his family. Really, they are horrible, vile, foul-mouthed people and I just can't get used to them. I never used to think much of it because I thought I'd get used to them, but I've been with him two years and nothing has changed! I've even thought about splitting up with him just because of this. Can you really be with someone if you hate their family? Any ideas on how to make this work? I feel really bad because he loves my family.
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Name withheld
Dear Friend,
You don't have to love themu00a0-- you only need to be respectful of them and respectful of your guy's love for his family. Compromise and realise that they could someday be family and both of your children's grandparents and relatives. Can you live with this? Part of being a true partner in life is loving all of the things about them that even irritate you a little bit. Have you ever considered that your BF might not "love" your family, but does say that and act that way for your benefit? I think you might have a bit of soul-searching and maturing to do before you become someone else''s wife.
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