5 steps toward a strong and healthy relationship

Updated on: 07 February,2011 10:54 AM IST |
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If you think your romantic relationship is on the rocks, don't worry, for an expert has offered tips to keep it alive and happy.

If you think your romantic relationship is on the rocks, don't worry, for an expert has offered tips to keep it alive and happy.

"Keeping the love in a relationship is about understanding who the other partner is and working extremely hard to keep the lines of communication open," said Josh Klapow, of the University of Alabama at Birmingham.

Klapow said a relationship is doomed if the communication is not there. "Very often it's the little things, the daily hassles and decisions that couples need to make that lead to bigger problems; learning to make decisions together is critical for the survival of your relationship," he said.

Here are the five things Klapow recommends for making decisions together:

Set a specific goal

"What do each of you want? Make sure you are very specific. Eating dinner out is not a specific goal. Going to a restaurant where you can get a steak, your partner can get grilled shrimp and you both can relax in a quiet booth is specific. The more specific you are the better."

Monitor your discussion

"As you are discussing the decision at hand, make sure you are staying on track. Often couples will start discussing a goal and stray to some other topic, which can lead to frustration. So, if you notice yourself or your spouse getting off the subject, come back to the specific goal."