I like him but my parents don’t!

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I am a 29-year-old and my parents recently introduced me to the son of one of their friends. They didn't do it because they wanted us to date or something, but we ended up chatting nonetheless and went out a few times. I think we have begun to like each other a lot, and he recently asked me if I would consider a relationship with him. I agreed because I thought there was something genuine between us but, when I informed my parents of this decision, they were surprisingly against the idea. They told me they were just being polite, and that they didn't like the boy's family at all. I don't know why they invited them over if they felt that way. I tried reasoning with them and pointing out that it was unfair to equate him with his family, but they have been adamant about this. I ignored them and have begun dating him anyway, because I have a mind of my own. They don't invite him over or chat with him when he comes to pick me up though, which is hurtful because I can't even tell him what they really think of his parents. How do I fix this?
You should tell him what they think even if it hurts him, or if it puts you in an awkward situation, because you have to stand up for what you believe in. They are entitled to their feelings, and to their belief that they are protecting you from something, but if you want your relationship with this person to get stronger, it can't happen without you opening up about what's really going on. It may also allow him to try and reconcile their differences and approach this from a different perspective. Yes, things may sour between his parents and your own, but they are old enough to deal with this on their own. Their issues aren't yours or your partner's, so let them manage it. Sometimes, parents need to learn from their children too.

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