What should I do? I really like him and would have liked to be with him, but I can’t force him either
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I have been meeting this guy for dinner once a month, and he acts as if he is interested in a relationship but doesn’t really commit to it. We have spoken about this, and he says he needs time, but still acts suspicious when I don’t answer his calls or tell him what’s going on with my life. I don’t think I owe him anything, and I am sure I won’t say much if he doesn’t commit to actually being with me. However, I am also wary of this approach because I may convince him that I am a difficult person to be with, which is not true at all. What should I do? I really like him and would have liked to be with him, but I can’t force him either.
You have been very clear about your intentions and are under no obligation to share anything about your personal life with him or anyone else. If he can’t commit, or needs more time, he has no right to behave as if you owe him any information. You should be clear about this with him irrespective of how he reacts. If he wants more time, and you are willing to give it to him, that is up to you based on how much you want to try and make this happen. If that doesn’t work for him, you should treat this as a red flag and congratulate yourself for dodging a bullet. If someone has to be forced into committing to something, you are doing yourself a disservice.
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This may sound strange, but I don’t trust my boyfriend when he speaks to this one girl. He isn’t exactly flirting but he is more comfortable with her than I would like him to be. Am I being paranoid?
If you have something on your mind and want to talk to him about it, you should, because not doing so may only lead to misunderstandings that are best avoided. If you don’t like something, say it, and explain why.
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