She now says she want a child!

Should I have a child just so I can continue being with her?

I am a 32-year old man and have been married for two years. My wife and I didn’t want children and we agreed to marry with the assumption that this was an important condition. A few months ago, she began speaking about reconsidering that rule and I was shocked because it went against everything we had discussed earlier. I tried to reason with her, and she agreed but, since then, she has mentioned it a few times again and has begun to question why we agreed to it. I have tried to remind her of our reasons, why we made this decision, and how the future of our marriage depends upon it, but she doesn’t seem convinced. I am worried that she is going to end this marriage because she wants a child and don’t know how I can save it. Should I have a child just so I can continue being with her?
That is the worst possible reason to become a parent and is also incredibly unfair not just to you but to the child as well. If you don’t want a child, that is your prerogative. If your wife has changed her mind, that is her prerogative because it’s her body. There’s nothing either of you can do if there is such a fundamental difference in your individual opinions. You can’t save a relationship where one partner wants to make such a life-altering decision, and counselling won’t help because both of you presumably have strong reasons for why you made this choice before marriage and why it changed after. I suggest you have an honest conversation about this as soon as possible and do what you feel is right for you. No child should be used as a pawn to save a relationship.

My boyfriend gets angry whenever I talk about commitment, and it worries me because I don’t know if he sees this as a long-term relationship. Should I break up with him?
If you both want different things, there may be no choice.

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