I think she should dump her bestie...

That depends entirely upon what you hope to accomplish. Do you have feelings for this colleague? Why assume she will want to go out with you if she is in a relationship

I have been trying to convince my girlfriend to stay away from one of her closest male friends because I believe he has feelings for her and is trying to get her to break up with me. We love each other a lot, but she is very fond of this friend, and he takes advantage of this by constantly saying uncomplimentary things about me. I have tried to be patient with him, but he hates me because he can’t stand the idea of our relationship. My girlfriend thinks I am exaggerating and doesn’t believe anything I say. She says I am simply jealous of anyone who is close to her. We argue about this often and she says she will never end her friendship with him for me, which I find very hurtful. How do I resolve this without causing harm to our relationship?
Your relationship with your girlfriend is separate from her friendship with this person. She is an adult and can make up her mind about people she wants or doesn’t want in her life. It’s possible that everything you say about her friend is accurate, but this really doesn’t change the fact that she is in a relationship with you, not him. If she doesn’t see things the way you do, it can’t be because of ignorance because she presumably knows her friend better than you do. It may make more sense to focus less on his friendship with her, and more on your own relationship, because strengthening that automatically eliminates any possible interference from anyone on the outside. As long as the two of you are happy with each other, you have nothing to worry about.

Should I try and ask a colleague out for a cup of coffee if she is dating someone?
That depends entirely upon what you hope to accomplish. Do you have feelings for this colleague? Why assume she will want to go out with you if she is in a relationship?

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