Have we made the right choice?

What you do need is clarity in terms of how this is affecting your savings and whether your partner is aware of this. Start by having a conversation about money

I am a 30-year old woman and have been engaged to a guy for over two years now. We haven’t been married because he and I have career goals in mind that require us to be flexible until we are financially secure. My parents want us to marry because they believe we will be fine, but my fiancé and I are both clear that jumping into marriage at this point can cause us harm in terms of our careers. My fear is that we will both get so used to this arrangement that we may never commit to something, because our careers will only demand more and more of our time. I don’t want to regret losing out on something a few years down the line. How do I know I am making the right choice in terms of my personal life?
You and your fiancé alone can answer that question because the priorities you have set for yourselves at the moment place the professional above the personal. There are always pros and cons to every argument for and marrying later, and you alone know how this affects your individual careers. I think what you should both do is try and give yourselves a definite date, and work towards goals that seem tangible. Think about why you are together and why you intend to marry, even if it is in the future. Then weigh what you stand to lose by not being together until that happens.

Should I end a relationship because of how it is affecting my finances? We are great together, but it takes a toll on my savings because my partner doesn’t earn as much as I do. Is this a frivolous reason even though it has a definite impact on my life?
Financial issues can derail any relationship, so this isn’t frivolous at all. What you do need is clarity in terms of how this is affecting your savings and whether your partner is aware of this. Start by having a conversation about money.

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