Don’t like my bestie anymore...

Should I try and evaluate my feelings and speak to her about this so we can try and get things back to the way they were?

My best friend and I have been together since we were in school. We are now graduating from college, and I feel as if I don’t like her that much anymore. She still feels the same way about me, so it’s only my feelings that have undergone this shift and I can’t understand why. On the surface, we are still close, we share all our secrets, and spend a lot of time together but, in private, I don’t feel as if I care about her as much as I used to. I sense that we will drift apart and become individuals with different paths in life. This makes me sad, but I don’t feel as if it is wrong, and am comfortable with it happening. Does this make me a bad person? Should I try and evaluate my feelings and speak to her about this so we can try and get things back to the way they were?
It’s always a good idea to speak to your friend, because friendship means being able to have honest conversations even if they are difficult. Tell her why you sense a shift, ask her if she feels as if things have changed, and recognise that life is about evolution. Our feelings towards ourselves and others may change, and are allowed to, because that’s normal. There is nothing to stop you from drifting apart and coming back together at a later stage, nor is there anything wrong with trying to resolve this and working towards making sure your relationship stays the same. The important thing is to acknowledge how you are feeling, being open about it, and keeping lines of communication open.

I got divorced a year ago and my friends want me to go out and live a little. I believe in stepping back and trying to recover. What is the best approach?
There is no right or wrong move here. You are grieving in your own way, and you should do what makes you feel better in the moment.

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