I have just delivered my second child and it's been tough managing both kids and the house while my husband is at work.
Why is my husband sending explicit messages to her? Illustration/ Satish Acharya
Dear Diana,
I have just delivered my second child and it's been tough managing both kids and the house while my husband is at work. Recently, I found messages from his female colleague on his cellphone. The messages were very risquu00c3u00a9 and I was shocked that they were almost like phone sex. I asked him about it, but he denied it. The next day, I peeped in his phone and saw he had replied to the SMS with one that was even more explicit than what she had sent. We had a love marriage five years ago, against parental opposition. He still tells me every night he loves me and at the same time, keeps messaging this woman. I love my husband and don't want him to leave me, but I can't take this anymore. How do I make him stop?
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Dear Friend,
Be strong. For your children at least, be strong. If at all this is nothing more than flirty (though risque) SMSes going back and forth, it couldn't be more ill-timed. You need him to understand your feelings and for him to be honest with you. The very fact that he isn't being honest with you, shows he HAS something to hide. All you need is each other, given that you two haveu00a0 (I assume) no support system to fall back on. Tell him that you have seen these SMSes and that they have to stop because it makes you uncomfortable.
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Dear Nitika,
Ask for the salary to be deposited into your account (not a joint account). Control the outflow byu00a0 giving him a certain spending amount a week and tell him he has to live within those means. You have to run a hosue after all. And he can't eat into your savings, too.
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Dear Diana,
I've been in a relationship since college (10 years now). I'm not at all happy because he is married and father of a baby boy. We're from different religions and besides, my family also depends on me. He helps me a lot financially and is always there for me whenever I have a problem. While I don't want to leave him because he helps me care for my parents, I am not able to take an interest in other guys because of him. I have conceded to the fact that we have no future together. But I don't want to be lonely. What should I do?
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Radhika
Dear Radhika,
It's been 10 years. You've grown complacent and have gotten used to the way things are. What happens when your parents pass away? You'll be lonely then. With no partner to really be able to spend timeu00a0 with you. Even now, his own 'family' means more to him than you do. You have already agreed that there can be no common future between you two. So why not end it all and be independent of him. Why feed on the favours of a guy who wants to be married and have a girlfriend on the side as well. It may seem a fair trade-off now, but how much longer will you pine after him. He may love you now, but what when you grow older. Think hard about the decisions you have to make.
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