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Should I tell mom that dad wants to divorce her?

Dear Diana,

I am a 22-year-old girl. My family and I have had a rough time the past few years due to health and other financialu00a0 issues. I thought that our bad times had made us stronger as a family but I was very wrong.

He says that the spark's gone and he needs some space. My mum and younger sister don't have a clue this is coming. I am the only one who knows and it has broken my heart.

I don't know who to turn to. I am trying to carry on as if everything is normal but I am shattered. I never ever thought this would happen to my family.
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Is there anything I can do to make my dad stay? Should I tell mom? Or should I let them sort this out between themselves?

Priya
Dear Priya,
I think all that your family has gone through has put a strain on yor parents' marriage. It's really sad what is happening, but you have to be prepared for the worst and hope for the best.
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Your dad might seem like a villain because he wants to leave, but you have to understand that he probably needs to do this. Also he has been honest to you about it.

I know right now it might seem like the world around you is crashing, but after a little time has passed, you will be able to see the whole situation objectively.

Firstly, you have to tell your mom about this. The sooner she knows, the better. You could also try to convince your dad to break the news himself.

If he doesn't want to do it, you have to. I am sure your mom would be devastated, but time heals everything.
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You can help her get through it also, just try to think about all the happiness you and your parents had. Also you never know, your dad might leave but once he does, he could want her back. But don't count on it.

His parents want us to start a family...

Dear Diana,
I am 24, and my husband is 31. We have been married for a year and half. We love each other a lot. My father-in-law and mother-in-law have come to visit us for a month.

Now his mom insists I haveu00a0 a baby. We both don't want a baby right now because we are both busy with our careers.

Also, we don't have our own house and we don't want a baby before we buy our own place. Am I wrong?

Rashmi
Dear Rashmi,
I think you are right in wanting to wait a while for a baby, and your mother in law cannot force you to get pregnant!

If you really want to get her off your back tell her that you are trying every night and you will have to wait and see to know if you have succeeded.

Don't forget to clue in your husband on your plan. Since she is only staying for a month, you can buy a bit of time with this white lie and she will stop putting so much pressure on you. Sneaky, but effective.

All my love for my family has dried up...

Dear Diana,
I am a 15-year-old girl. I used to be loving and caring but now I don't love anyone or anything. I used to care for my mom the most but now, I don't feel any love for her, my dad, or sister.
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Is something wrong with me? My mom has noticed I am becoming distant.

I don't go over to my sister's anymore and I haven't called her in two weeks. When she calls I don't want to speak to her. I hate everyone. I feel very empty and sad. Why?

Vidya
Dear Vidya,
Dear Vidya,
Sounds like you are depressed. Can you pinpoint what caused this change, and when/why it happened? If you think this is serious, I suggest you speak to your mom about seeing a a psychologist/psychiatist/counsellor who will be able to tell you if this is serious.

Posing this question indicates that you want to go back to the happy and loving person you were, so that's good news. This could just be puberty issues.

Being a teen is difficult and comes with its unique problems. Talk to your sister, aunt, mother about this and see what is their take.

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