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My GF wears the pants, how do I get it back?

Dear Diana,

I feel this problem stems from her making a lot more money than I do. It isn't really possible for me to make more money because I am also a full-time student and she isn't, so I don't have the time.

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I have to work really hard to earn her recognition and affection. It's always up to her when we have sex. If I try tou00a0 initiate it, she gets really angry and ignores me, just to assert some dominance.

She decides what we eat, where we go, what we do, what bills I pay, what housework she wants me to have done by the end of the day etc... I want to be the one calling the shots!

I'veu00a0 done so in every other relationship I've had, so it's really weird and frustrating to be going through this. Help

AM
Dear Friend,
Relationships are about love and equality, not power. On one hand, you say you are fine if you guys have equal say over everything, then you say you want to call the shots. Why are you so upset if she makes the decisions?

Is it because she is making them or you don't want to do what she gets you to do? Did you ever wonder whether she feels this way because it isu00a0 her nature or it is the effect of a previous relationship for her which had gone sour because she did not take any initiative? Or maybe, the decisions you have taken so far are not agreeable to her.

Just read through your question again, and you will see that you are accusing her of doing what you want to do. If you are sure you want to continue this relationship, then sit down and talk to her about your feelings on the equation between you two.

Don't try to force her to do anything just to feel a sense of power. If she doesn't change after you talk, then maybe you should call it off. It will be better for both of you.

My best friend doesn't want to talk to me...

Dear Diana,
One of my best friends was dating my cousin brother. I was against it butu00a0 felt it wasn't my business to say anything.

They've broken up now and are being weird with me. They both won't talk to me or hang out. It hurts for me to see them both down. What should I do?

Bijal
Dear Bijal,
Being a mutual friend, you should try to clear the misunderstanding between them, if any.u00a0 You need to tell both of them that you are fond of them and don't want your association to suffer because of the break-up. They're both probably going through a hard time. Just let them be for now. Time heals.

His parents don't like me...

Dear Diana,
I met this guy in April. He's a Leo, a year younger than me and I like him. I'm an Aries. Our star signs are supposed to be cool together.

But I don't know if I love him or if he loves me. We connect onu00a0 Facebook every day. He always tells me I look pretty and he confides in me.

He told me that his parents yelled at him for talking to me. I'm concerned as I get the feeling his parents don't want him to have much to do with me.
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I can't get through the day without a message from him on FB. Do I love him? Is he attracted to me? If so, is it long term or just a crush? His parents obviously don't like me. What do I do?

Vineeta
Dear Vineeta,
I'm not sure if I'd go as far as love, but you definitely like him very much and he clearly means a lot to you. You'd know if you were in love with him.
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As for him, he seems to feel the same way about you. Else, he wouldn't make an effort to talk to you every day, especially if his parents don't like it.

I think the main problem is the issue with his parents. You don't need to worry about how you feel about him.

That comes naturally, so just go with the flow and see what happens. But you need to find out what the problem is exactly with his parents.

It could be easily sorted, e.g. if they don't like that he's talking to a girl on Facebook. But if you want to take your relationship further, then you should try to sort things with his parents. Good luck.

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