I’m begging her to please come back to me!

I am 20 and have been in a relationship with a 19-year-old girl for over a year now. For a couple of months now, we've been having some problems

I'm begging her to please come back to me!

Dear Diana,
I am 20 and have been in a relationship with a 19-year-old girl for over a year now. For a couple of months now, we've been having some problems. These would end after I pleaded with her to forget and forgive even if it was not my fault. Everyone knows that I truly love her, but now I don't want to plead again, as I don't want her to know that I am this desperate for her. But even if I want to contact her, I will not be able to because she has stopped using her cell phone, I can't contact her at home, or heru00a0 friends as the college is closed. Please help me get her back!!!! I am not able to focus on anything.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Give her some time to cool off. She's obviously angry at you over something. And if you're unsure what that is, it's best to stay away for some time. She's happy playing the dominant partner in this relationship. If you are okay with that, pursue her with all your heart and put up with all her idiosyncrasies. Go up to her and grovel and beg her to come back to you and say you're sorry. Sorry if I'm being sarcastic but you deserve it. This relationship seems a little too slanted in her favour. If you are guilty of something, fine. But nothing you've written here, suggests that you have.

Is hard livin' destroying my manliness?

Dear Diana,
I'm 36 and suffer from premature ejaculation. I have two pegs of hard liquor and smoke daily. I want to quit but don't know how.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
I can't say for sure whether the two causes are related to the effect but you would be best advised to visit an andrologist who would be able to tell you for sure what's causing the problem and how to deal with it.

What am I doing wrong?

Dear Diana,
I'm 30, my wife's 35. We've been married 10 years. In the beginning, we had a great sex life, with her wanting to do it daily. I'd avoid it as it would tire me out but for four years now, SHE has lost interest in sex and I have to propose that we do. So we do it once a week. She's active all day and when we finally do it, she tells me that she is tired, her body aches. Also, she used to be a great kisser, but when I kiss her now, she doesn't allow me to. She works 14 hours a day, I won't lie. And she won't even tell me how to make it better.

SS

Dear Friend,
By your own admission, your wife works 14 hours a day. Isn't that tiring enough? Who would feel like having sex after a hard day at work. I wouldn't blame her for her lack of interest in sex. Give her the benefit of doubt when she offers reasons for her disinterestedness. I guess you could say the spark has gone out of your marriage but your taking her for granted initially, could partly be to blame for the situation. Maybe, what the two of you need is a vacation, a revival of sorts, where the two of you can spend time away from the world, with not a care to bother you.

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