Write to Diana at diana@mid-day.com, or fax her on 24150009. You can also post letters to Dear Diana, Mid Day, Peninsula Centre, Dr S S Rao Road, opp Mahatma Gandhi Hospital, Parel, Mumbai 400012

How can I know that she never did it with her ex?

How can I know that she never did it with her ex?

Dear Diana,

I am 24 years old, and my girlfriend is also of the same age. We have been in love for the past six months, but now I find myself in a dilemma. She recently confided in me about her first boyfriend and how he had been 15 years older than her. She told me that she left him because she found out that he was actually married with children. He had lied to her and when she found, she dumped him. When I asked her how intimate they had got, she claimed that while they'd hug and kiss each other, she never slept with him. I want to know if it is possible she restricted herself to that? In the past six months, we've slept together more than eight times. How is it that sheu00a0 never slept with him? When I discussed her past relationship with my relatives, they told me that it is not possible she did not sleep with her ex boyfriend. After all, if she could do it with me, she could have done it with anyone else too, especially since she loved him a lot. I am confused. Should I trust her on this?

Raj

Dear Friend,
I can't help you. Your problem would be as simple as a overactive libido to being a sex addict. You need professional help to get the right diagnosis. You seem to know that there is a problem, and that's the first step towards betterment. If you don't seek help, you will continue to indulge and kill yourself with the guilt. Also if your girlfriend finds out, she might leave. Unless you want to be alone for the rest of yoru life, and just have casual meaningful relationships, I suggest you seeka good therapist and try and get over your addiction. There are also many books on the subject that you could read and use as a guide, if you chose to do this yourself. but that might be difficult.u00a0

"Exciting news! Mid-day is now on WhatsApp Channels