Clinical sexologist Dr Prakash Kothari and Counseling Psychologist Rachna Kothari answer your sex-related queries
Q. I am 22 and desperately want to enhance the size of my penis. Is there any 100% sure and safe way?
— Big problem
A. Yes. By using a Magnifying glass!
PS. Please avoid using the same in direct sunlight
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Q. My husband wants me to have a caesarean. He says that vagina would widen after normal delivery and sex wouldn’t be enjoyable thereafter. Is it true?
— Jyoti
A. During normal delivery when the baby passes through the vagina, the vaginal passage gets widened and hence may become little loose. But vagina is a highly elastic organ, it expands according to the inserted object/baby; and gradually returns to the original state. Also, during and after pregnancy, Kegel’s exercises can help to tone up and strengthen the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina to near normal. Till that time you can adopt woman’s legs crossed position for better grip.
Q. Is afterplay really important? After sex, my husband and I just turn our backs towards each other and go to sleep.
— Neetu
A. Afterplay is as important as foreplay. Most people enjoy being held, cuddled, talked to, and partners need to communicate with each other after the physical act is over. They need to make each other feel wanted. A woman shouldn’t get the feeling that she is used just like a sleeping pill. Hence the best thing in afterplay is “play”.
Q. I was prescribed anti-anxiety medication for my problem of sleeplessness. I am feeling a drastic drop in my sexual desire. Is this because of the medication?
— Anxious
A. Yes. There are some anti-anxiety medications that may have paralyzing effect on the sexual system of some individuals. It may affect desire and sometimes even erection as well. In such situations, medications can be changed to drugs, which have the same effect on the medical target symptom without paralyzing the sexual system. Medicine like Bupropion is one of the safe anti-anxiety/depression drug.