Why is she always testing me!

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My girlfriend always feels the need to test me, to make me prove to her that I love her. She feels as if she doesn't get enough affection or attention, even though I try my best to constantly reassure her. It starts to get exhausting after a point because I have to spend most of our time together talking about what I can do to make her feel special. On some days, I dread meeting her because I know I will return in a miserable state. I am thinking about breaking up with her even though I love her very much, just because nothing I do seems to be enough. How can I fix this?
You have to consider the possibility that her need for reassurance may have nothing to do with your displays of affection and more to do with her personal life, her past, and feelings of neglect or abandonment that she may or may not have had to cope with. This isn't something you can fix, because it requires counsel, and the development of coping mechanisms that neither of you may have access to. If you genuinely love her and want to be with her, there may be a certain amount of work you have to put in, along with patience, to arrive at a place of acceptance and understanding. You won't be able to do this on your own though, if she doesn't acknowledge that this is an issue that requires the intervention of a professional. Tell her where things stand between you and ask if she is willing to do what it takes to make this better.

Should I go on a holiday with my boyfriend of two months? Is it too soon? What if the trip damages our relationship in some way?
The only way to find out is to go ahead and see what it's like to be with him. A holiday always comes with potential pitfalls but is also a great opportunity to get to know someone a lot better.

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