Should I stay in this relationship?

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My boyfriend and I recently went on a holiday together, and the way he behaved was completely at odds with how he usually is. I haven't seen this side of him before and it shocked me because it sometimes felt as if I was with a different person. We got back a week ago and he is back to normal, but I can't seem to get that trip out of my mind. I have a lot of questions or him but can't ask them because it doesn't even seem like he recognises how he behaved at the time. I am worried about whether he is just hiding some aspects of his personality from me, and don't know if I should be in a relationship with him anymore. What should I do?
The whole point of going on holiday with someone and spending time with them away from your everyday surroundings is to observe them in a different setting and get to know them better. If you saw something you didn't like, it is entirely your prerogative to act upon that and confront him. Tell him why you were shocked, ask him if he thought he behaved in ways he shouldn't have, and allow him to respond to your questions. If he doesn't think he did anything different, that's a red flag because it means he is unable to see things from your point of view. If he does explain, it will allow the two of you to get to know each other better. Ask him if he thought you were different too, and if there were things he would like to talk about. It is only by examining our actions that we arrive at a better understanding of why we do what we do.

Should I tell my girlfriend that her parents annoy me? She loves them a lot, so I don't want this to lead to an argument.
You can tell her anything you like, provided you have a genuine reason for feeling the way you do.

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