She has a problem with everything!

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I have been dating a girl who seems to have a problem with everything I do, unless I agree with what she says. She's very kind and loving, and I genuinely love being with her, but it worries me because she is so set in her ways that I try and imagine what she will be like when she's older and it terrifies me. She doesn't even think there's anything wrong about how she imposes her view on everything because she believes she is more qualified to comment than I am. She is better educated than me, but that doesn't make her a more important person and she just doesn't get that. How do I get her to change if she wants to make this relationship work?
Relationships are about equality, and the ones that survive are the ones built on mutual trust and respect. Not accepting your point of view is a sign of mistrust as well as a lack of respect, and nothing you do or say can change that if it doesn't come from her. You may love each other and care about each other very deeply, but your future is not bright if you can't feel valued by each other. Tell her why you feel this way and, if she doesn't see things from your perspective, prepare for the fact that this is not going to end well. We all have our breaking points and you have just not reached yours yet.

Should I end a relationship just because my girlfriend is obsessed with material things? She wants me to buy her something every week and thinks I am being miserly if I tell her it's a waste of money. There is nothing else wrong with us.
Financial issues can derail the strongest of relationships, and maturity is about recognising this and living within one's means. Wanting something all the time, for no reason, is the opposite of maturity. If your girlfriend can't understand this, she may still have some growing up to do.

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