It is so hard to be friends again...

Illustration/Uday Mohite

I got into a relationship with a close friend, but it didn't work out. We dated for around four months and then decided it didn't make sense because we had different expectations from each other. It was an amicable break-up, but we have been unable to get back to the way things used to be, which is sad. There is an awkwardness between us now that simply wasn't there before. I know this makes him sad, too, but it feels as if the more we try to get back to normal, the harder it is. We should never have been in a relationship, but it's too late to do anything about that. Should I assume that our friendship is over? I wish it wasn't the case, but it doesn't feel as if we can fix this. What do I do?
You should both speak about this and remind each other of why you have been friends for as long as you have. Like any relationship, this is about wanting to make it work. The awkwardness is normal but will also fade away with time. If you want to avoid each other for a while, it doesn't solve the problem. I suggest you try being patient and give yourselves space to get over what has happened. If you value each other's presence in your lives, this doesn't have to mean the end of your friendship because saving it is in your hands too.

Is it a problem for me to date a guy who is much taller than I am? My friends may make fun of us which is why I haven't reciprocated even though I know he loves me and wants to be with me. I am just nervous about how people will react because I am a very short person.
This is about you, your feelings, and the person who claims to be in love with you. The only thing that matters is how you feel about each other, and whether you want to make this work.

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