He blocked me for over a week!

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I am a 22-year old woman and have been in a relationship with a guy for the past seven years. There have been a lot of ups and downs during this period, but we never gave up on each other. Things have changed over the last few months though. My boyfriend gets irritated whenever we talk and tries to avoid me as much as he can. We recently got into a fight, and he blocked me for more than a week, which has never happened before. We began speaking again two days ago, but I am the one taking the initiative because he doesn't seem to be interested. I even asked him to tell me if he doesn't want to continue this relationship instead of ignoring me. He responded by saying he wasn't ignoring me but was simply busy with office work. This is getting very toxic, and I am depressed because I have invested years of my life on him. I have tried to explain what I am going through, but he just doesn't care. Because of this, I can't focus on my career, and it is very tough for me to break up. I love him so much. Please tell me what to do.
Everything you are going through is understandable because seven years is a long time. It's also important to look at the future and think about what those years mean when you consider the rest of your life ahead of you. If this is someone who isn't treating you with the love and respect you deserve, is it someone you want to make a lifelong commitment to? You can choose to focus on the time you have invested in this relationship or think about what your expectations are from a lifelong partner. If he doesn't take the initiative to communicate, you can't force it. You can step back and allow him to reconsider his priorities. If that doesn't work, the most sensible thing is to look ahead, not at the past.

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