Girlfriend’s sister has a crush on me

Illustration/Uday Mohite

I have an awkward but serious problem with my girlfriend's sister, because she has a huge crush on me and keeps trying to flirt with me whenever my girlfriend is not around. I have told my girlfriend about this a few times, but she just laughs it off and says I should be flattered. What she doesn't understand is that the more I brush off her sister, the more I get a sense that she is starting to resent me. I don't put it past her to start saying things about me that are nasty or just untrue, in the hope that it ruins my relationship with her sister. I avoid going to their house as much as possible now, and there is already a lot of unnecessary strain on me because of this. How do I resolve it? She is not a teenager, but she behaves in a way that is almost immature which makes it hard for me to have a conversation with her.
The longer you put off having that conversation, the harder it is going to be for all three of you to navigate this. If your girlfriend isn't taking this seriously, you should confront her sister and tell her that you aren't comfortable with her flirting because that is the right thing to do. She can badmouth you if that is the immature route she wishes to take, but your girlfriend's trust and the strength of the bond you share with her should make it possible for you both to overcome this. Being calm and direct is often the best approach, because an infatuation simply needs time to resolve itself. Your girlfriend's sister needs to understand where your feelings and priorities lie, and why her actions harm not just you but her sister too. She needs to understand that what she is doing is disrespectful, even if her sister refuses to call it out. Avoiding her is not a solution because it doesn't address the problem and simply assumes it will go away.

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