THE wedding day is always u201c your dayu201d. What they donu2019t tell you is that personal choice and freedom donu2019t come in totality and tradition, expectations and feelings cannot be ignored. In its 2017 report, KPMG estimated that the Indian wedding industry was $ 50 billion in size, second only to the US at $ 70 billion. And thatu2019s where the designer, stylist, make- up guru, and jewellery makers come into the picture. u201c Itu2019s a bizarre industry, and there was only so much expenditure that I could justify,u201d says Priti Rao, Asia director- Dalberg Design, and Mumbai resident.
When Rao got engaged to her now husband Vijay Kumar in June 2019, a u201c simple weddingu201d was what she wanted. u201c But simplicity doesnu2019t come cheap.
I didnu2019t think that a wedding would require so much production,u201d she laughs.
Rao, 42, and Kumar got married in a traditional Telugu ceremony last December in the picturesque and historical Hampi.
u201c Why go to Tuscany when we have beautiful sites right here?u201d She invested five months in putting together her trousseau. She calls it a u201c a projectu201d that required her to give it time after workhours and on holidays. u201c Indian weddings are far more complex than buying one white dress; itu2019s multi- day affair. I learned so much about the country in the process. All fancy designer brands are clearly influenced by Bollywood star weddings. But what about the modern Indian bride who does not wish to look like Deepika Padukone? Where would I shop? I am 42, and the available options appeared to be tailor- made for 20- year- olds,u201d she says, adding that she was looking to strike a balance between tradition and self- expression.
HAIR I had imagined wearing flowers in my hair, and so, I grew my short hair out. I Googled u201c short hair Indian brideu201d and found no results. The choice of flowers was either roses or champa [ jasmine], but on the morning of the wedding, my friend Shama Pawar suggested a lotus from her garden, and thatu2019s what I wore in my hair for the ceremony.
MAKE- UP Make- up artistes charge anything between R 20,000 and R 60,000 for a session. Hindu ceremonies typically entail three events a day, and you might be asked to fly them down with their assistants.
Even a u2018 natural looku2019 costs a lot of money. Anisa Pereira, a colleague who had studied make- up, stepped in. A dab of lipstick, some eye shadow, and a very light foundation so as to not hide my freckles, and I was ready.
TROUSSEAU The saree choosing was painful, and although I come from a respectable family, I could not justify the ridiculous expense of hiring a personal stylist. I wanted to invest in pieces that Iu2019d be able to reuse. Honestly, I would have settled for a pyjama wedding with close friends and family. But you have to account for social obligations and the wedding location.
For instance, I had to keep in mind how the saree and its colour would look against the dramatic backdrop of Hampi. Iu2019d have loved to wear my motheru2019s 100- yearold Benarasi from Vimor, but custom demanded that I wear only new clothes. My first choice was an Anavila Misra red linen saree, but, friends trilled with, u2018 if you wear a plain saree, what will we wear?u2019 So, I wore it for the wedding photoshoot instead.
Finally, I decided to go with a rani pink Benarasi saree with floral work by Urtoo that I had picked up at the Delhi crafts exhibition. The lady at the stall had suggested that I pair it with an orange blouse, a tip I happily incorporated in my Bengali puff sleeve choli. For the wedding reception, I wore a gold brocade Kanjeevaram bought from a weaver in Kanchipuram, and teamed it with my sisterin- lawu2019s vaddanam u2014 a staple gold hip- belt for Telugu brides.
JEWELLERY Heeding multiple opinions is interesting. My friends pointed me in the direction of the elegant Shakuntala in Raja Ravi Varma paintings, while my in- laws imagined me as a Telugu Brahmin Goddess laden with gold. I would have picked floral jewellery over gold, but had to consider family expectations. Keeping in mind my [ Mangalorean] roots and Vijayu2019s Telugu background, I decided on jhumkas, a choker, the mookuthi ( nose ring), a basingalu ( nuptial crown), and gold bangles from Waman Hari Pethe interspersed with pink and orange glass ones to match my saree. Itu2019s tough, by the way, to find glass bangles in shades other than green Priti Rao, who married Vijay Kumar in 2019, picked up this pink floral Benarasi from a Delhi craft fair and Kolhapuri chappals from Colaba Causeway A light pink Kanchipuram saree for the pre- wedding Gowri puja A gold saree with her sister- inlawu2019s vaddanam for the reception
and red in Mumbai. And, if you desire Kerala- style jewellery, the options are slim unless you take a flight to Bengaluru.
Kavitha, my sister- in- law, bought bangles in Hyderabad, and a search on Google threw up a shop called Kerala Jewellery Works in Chembur.
They designed my jhumkas and choker.
FOOTWEAR It was the easiest. I wore Kolhapuri chappals and Peshawar jootis from Abbas footwear at Colaba Causeway.
