17 April,2009 09:22 AM IST | | Dear Diana
Dear Diana,
I recently discovered that my wife was cheating on me. That too, with my best friend! They were in a sexual relationship for over a year now. Even after showing her evidence of her guilt, she refused to accept that she was guilty of adultery. I told her it was over and that we could solve this out of court amicably or I would drag her and her lover to court as I have ample evidence. We have no children. Am I doing the right thing?
Tim
Surely, there must've been some compulsions that drove her into the arms of another man. Figure out what those are. Moreover, if she's guilty and you know it and cannot live with that truth, separate. What hurts the most, is the betrayal by both your friend and wife, and that is something you cannot wish away easily. I think you are being fair in giving her a shot at dignity (if she's guilty) with an out-of-court settlement, and a chance to prove you wrong (if she's innocent) in a court of law. The ball's in her court now.
Do I stand a chance?
Dear Diana,
I am 18 and in love with a girl who's 24. She has a boyfriend but has agreed to going out with me on a date. I really like her and intend to make the date memorable for her. I have everything planned down to the last detail. Do you think I have a chance at winning her heart?
Name withheld on request
Dear Friend,
It all depends on how much she loves this guy and how much she believes it isn't worth giving up someone she knows and loves for someone she isn't sure about. Of course, if she's agreed to this date, she might not be reading too much into it. Only after she reacts to what you have planned for her, will you know what's on her mind. Until then, just enjoy the time you spend with her.
His parents don't seem keen about me as a bahu!
Dear Diana,
Recently, a friend of mine proposed to me after knowing me for what seems like forever. I love this guy and was overjoyed. He's a very caring guy and even my parents love him. He told his parents about us but they didn't seem too enthusiastic about me. They are fond of me, but I don't know if they think of me as a prospective daughter-in-law. What should I do?
Anita
Dear Friend,
Well, here's the thing. Since he proposed to you, it's his responsibility to convince his parents about you. He has to make that extra effort to ensure that you are accepted as family by his family. He may be perfect for you, but remember, a marriage isn't just a marriage of two individuals here, most often, it's a marriage of two families, too. Try and figure out why they don't think you're rightu00a0 for their son. In the meantime, just pray.
