03 August,2009 11:29 AM IST | | MiDDAY
If you discovered your loved one had been doing the dirty, would you dare to forgive them? Our users investigated the dilemma of infidelity, as reported in The Sun.
Gentlegeniuss thinks those who stray deserve to be given the benefit of the doubt: "After all, to stray is human. Besides, many have done so out of love and understanding and are currently enjoying their relationships, says The Sun.
"So, 'once a cheat always a cheat' is not always the case."
NightryderBM reckons it's important to look to the future: "If you are going to forgive someone for cheating it's not fair to throw it in their face all the time.
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"Forgive and move on or don't forgive and move on. Just make sure you move on."
However, jezebel1234 shared her first hand experience and found it hard to forgive: "Once upon a time I would have, and did! But I never ever would again!
"You can't help but bring it up even if you don't want to and try hard not to. It's very hard to move on unfazed!"
Life is too short to bear a grudge according to LilyO: "Generally speaking yes I would. People make mistakes. We wouldn't get anywhere in life if we never got a second chance."
Second chances are out of the question for yellowteddybear: "I couldn't because I am jealous and insecure at the best of times, so to KNOW my boyfriend had done the dirty would make me out him. I check other women out as potential threats even though I'm 99% sure they aren't.
"I know it's my own insecurities and I deal with them, but I couldn't handle the rejection of someone cheating on me because that's what it is - they are rejecting you to spend time with another."
liselotte1 feels a two-timer might learn the error of their ways given the opportunity: "Maybe sometimes they will realise how much they really care, and will be so sorry and would feel so bad they will never do it again."
On the other hand, Iceman19 is adamant there can be no going back: "Once the trust is broken like that then you can never fully trust them again. Everyone knows when the trust is gone so is the relationship."
As reported in The Sun.
