It is no secret: Mera pati chor hai!

It is no secret: Mera pati chor hai!

Dear Diana,
I'm 30, married and have a daughter. I had an arranged love marriage five years back with a person I knew since college. He's good at heart. After marriage, I observed that my precious belongings kept getting stolen. A few days after, I observed that my husband was the culprit. I gave him a chance to be a good person, but he failed each time. I work with a very good company and earn well. My husband is not as well educated as me, and has no savings. I run my home, look after my child and even help his parents as and when they need money. Recently, he stole my mobile. I lodged a complaint against him, following which he remained in police custody for one day. I don't feel loved nor do I care for him any more. My parents are supportive but I don't want to depend on them. Everybody is advising me to separate from him but I am worried about my child's

ABC

Dear Friend,
You've got your entire life ahead of you. Don't throw it away because of a bad spouse. He's the albatross around your neck that will drag you down to the depths with him. Most obviously, he's a kleptomaniac and won't change his ways anytime soon. If you have the patience, wait it out. If not, get him to psychiatrist for therapy. He's gotten used to the idea of his wife being the 'man of the house' and is one of those cads who feel that they can take their situation for granted and get away with it. You recently did the right thing by turning him in. But remember, this may be counter-productive as he might take his frustrations out on you, or your child. Ask yourself this: Would you be better off without him? If the answer's yes, don't think about anything else.

I'm too sweet to be a boyfriend?

Dear Diana,
I have many female friends but have been single for a long time. The reason is usually the same: I'm too nice or too sweet. I find it absolutely stupid that women are giving me this reason to avoid a relationship. I hear my friends complain about not finding the perfect guy. Am I actually doing something wrong or is it a problem with these women?

Sebastian

Dear Sebastian,
How does being too nice/too sweet create a problem for your popularity with the women? I guess the answer to that question lies in one indisputable fact: that perfection is in the eye of the beholder. You being a decent chap and all, qualifies you as being the best friend or an ideal husband. Be a little unpredictable sometimes. Create an aura of mystery that will keep your friends guessing. Being straightforward all the time will get you nowhere.

My girlfriend is really clueless

Dear Diana,
I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year. My problem is she talks to her guy friends so nicely that they think she loves them. They ask her but she denies anything of the sort but talks for hours with them nevertheless. Some think she's cheap and have proposed sex to her; she refuses but continues to talk to them. I get hurt when our common friends also think she wants to have sex. I have told her to be careful but to no avail.

Name withheld on request

Dear Friend,
I think there's more than meets the eye here. Your girlfriend knows what she's getting into. Yet, she continues to be friendly with these guys, whose intentions she is already aware of. The very fact that she continues to be friends with their sort, shows that she enjoys the attention. She also obviously enjoys turning guys down. And besides, there can be no smoke without fire. I think you should speak to your girlfriend and ask her what the conversations are all about.