I want to improve the chemistry we share

I want to improve the chemistry we share

Dear Diana,
We've been deeply in love for four years now. Trouble is, we don't think alike and end up having big fights. We are passionate about the love we share, though and so, patch up nicely every single time. I want to improve my chemistry with him. Also, he is very cautious about having sex as he doesn't want to make it a habit that might pose future problems and hence, altogether avoids doing it. Kindly adviseu2026

Name withheld on request

Dear Friend,
After four years together, one would expect you to predict the possible roadblacks and think up remedies to avoid them. I guess opposites attract (though not entirely) and so, you're goingto continue having big arguments. Also, one can never be too cautious when it comes to sex. Most importantly because of the high risk of contracting STDs or the HIV+ virus.u00a0 Avoiding it altogether because of the possibility of an addiction to it or the possibility of that becoming the end-all of being in a relationship is simply stupid. If it's the odds of having an unwanted pregnancy on his hands that's troubling him, there are always options of making sure you're safe. Chemistry-wise, different things work for different people.

In love with an older woman...

Dear Diana,
I have a peculiar problem. I am in love with a married woman, who is six years elder than me. She has two children. Will it work out?

Anil

Dear Anil,
It will only 'work out' if you're single, she wants a divorce from her current husband (assuming she isn't happy with him), her consent to being in love with you (assuming that she is, indeed, happily married. Will it work out? Only if she loves you too.

After letting him go, he wants back!

Dear Diana,
We've been in a relationship two years and recently decided to get married. Life was going fine when all of a sudden, his behaviour changed. We'd started fighting and had a lot of arguments. I now feel that there is no love left between us. One day he called me up and we had a huge fight. I've decided to let him go. In between, my medical problem got solved and I am perfectly fine these days. It's been three months since. He called me saying he wants to get back with me. I have been distressed since. Should I?

An Admirer

Dear Friend,
Okay, first of all, what medical problem are you talking about? There is just a passing mention of it in your letter. Is this the reason why the two you drifted apart? Was this the cause of the anger and frustration? Because if it is, it seems that he's simply an opportunist, if nothing else. Now that it is resolved (your problem), he's ready for reconciliation. The timing is very suspect. Whether or not you want to give him another chance is up to you. If you think he doesn't deserve you, don't get back with him.