06 August,2010 06:47 AM IST | | Dear Diana
Dear Diana,
I am 25. I have never touched any girl romantically in my life though I have had the desire to have sex from my teenage days. Because I respect culture and tradition I did not have sex, and now I want to find a girl who has also stayed away from temptation. Is that foolish? I am handsome and many girls tried to love me in many ways but I just rejected them, and kept my heart pure for my wife. I think that intimacy is the peak stage of love. It would kill me if I didn't find a virgin girl. I have waited to shareu00a0 my love in various ways and if she has been with other guys, that would not be fair to me. Then what is the use of words like honesty, love, faith and family?
Sajid
Dear Sajid,
You remained a virgin, so you don't offer your wife painful thoughts about your past sex life. And now if you want a wife who has made the same sacrifices, then it's fair. I am sure you will find your virgin. Just beware of girls who claim to be virgins but are not. So choose wisely, as this does seem to be a big deal to you. Although I would like to stress that there is a difference between a woman who has been with a man, and one who hasn't. A girl who isn't a virgin may be a nicer person and have the same values as you. Some people just make mistakes. Don't let the person who you should be with for the rest of your life get away just because she has been with someone else. If you know she'll make you happy forever and you love her for all the right reasons, then please don't torture her with what is done and deprive yourself of a soulmate.u00a0
He asked a porn star to email him...
Dear Diana,
I Googled my boyfriend's secret email address. I found out he commented on an erotic pic on a porn website, telling the model to email him, if she wanted to. I don't even know how I should feel about this. I don't feel like confronting him as I don't want him to think I am a control freak (Am I?). What should I do?
Name withheld
Dear friend,
There's nothing wrong in going to a porn site. But the fact that he has a secret email address and asked a porn star to email him is a little worrying. If you are still in the early stages of the relationship then don't mention it as it would look like you are checking up on him. If you've been together for a long time, then bring it up casually and see what he says before you decide what to do with this information.
I broke up with him. Now I want him back..
Dear Diana,
I split with my guy as I wasn't happy. Also, when we were together, it seemed like he wasn't having fun.u00a0 Au00a0 day before I broke it off, I was drunk and we had a really good conversation, which made me realize how much he loved me. But I forgot all about it and broke up with him the next day. I feel terrible andu00a0 want him back. But he is stubborn and says he doesn't believe in getting back together with people. He thinks it never works. But I feel we could make this work. Any hints?
Jyotsana
Dear Jyotsana,
Well, you say you were not happy and it seemed like he wasn't really enjoying himself either. I think you are just missing being in a relationship and are romanticising things now just to get back together. I am sorry but I have to agree with your stubborn man for no other reason except that it seems like he has outgrown the relationship. So have you, but you are not ready to admit it. My hint is: you'd do better to let this go.
