His past is holding him back from being with me!

Dear Diana,
I am 18. There's this guy my age who lives in the vicinity and I love him a lot. We even study together. I told him my feelings a while back. He spoke of his bad past and being unable to overcome it but promised to be friends. It was difficult but I respected his wishes.

Now, he talks of having feelings for me and promised to talk after our exams end. When I went to his place to help him solve some questions, he had he didn't want to talk even after the exams ended. I have no idea what's wrong now. Trouble is, I love him and don't want to lose him. But he is different around me than he is around his friends. What should I do?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
If he is uncomfortable being with you when he is with his friends, it clearly signals that he isn't ready to be in a relationship just yet. Give it time, be patient. Although, it also means he clearly can't deal with his own feelingsu00a0-- for his ex or for anyone else. He's clearly not in a good place right now and it would be best for you to not get involved just yet. The right thing would be for you to tell him he can talk to you whenever he wants to and whenever he's ready.

Can we have sex while she's pregnant?

Dear Diana,
My wife and I used to have a great sex life. She has been pregnant for one and half month now. We want to have sex now asu00a0 well but are afraid it might terminate the pregnancy. What should we do?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
Unless she has complications, sex is safe right up until she delivers. In fact, having sex during one's pregnancy is one of the best things about it. Don't be scared. Just remember to employ positions that keeps weight off her belly.

I hate myself for cheating on him

Dear Diana,
I was in a wonderful relationship for over a year and we were really deep in love with one another. Then one day, I went for coffee with a guy I used to love and we slept together. I told my boyfriend right after that happened. He decided a week later to break up.

That was a year ago, and I am still feeling terrible for what happened. I cannot forgive myself and cannot move on. I wished he could give me another chance but he just wouldn't. Everyday I wake up depressed and go to bed depressed. I don't know what to do with my life and there's so much regret and self-hatred in me. What can I do?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
I think if you're still feeling this bad after a year, the time has probably come for you to speak to a doctor about your depression. There's obviously a lot going on in your head, and I don't think you're strong enough to deal with it alone anymore.

My advice is that you seek professional help for your depression.u00a0 Understand that cheating is not just a momentary weakness, it is a symptom of underlying psychological issues. I would also recommend not dating now. First, figure out the why's of your cheating, understand yourself better, and be aware of why and when you can fall into this trap. Then, understanding this well, you can begin to date responsibly.