He was my first love and I can't forget him...

Dear Diana,
I was in love with a married man six years ago. We met through common friends. It was attraction at first sight. For a while we just spoke over the phone. Later we started going out together. I ended up having a physical relationship with him.

He told me he loved me more than he did his wife. The moments, though not often, we spent with each other were precious. He told me he had never felt like this for any other woman before. I believed him and let myself go.



But I was a fool because after two years of being together he started avoiding me. He refused to even talk to me. When I asked him about it he said he wanted to call it quits for my sake. He did not want me to get into any trouble for being in a relationship with with a married man.
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So we parted ways and since then we have not been in touch. But till today I miss him. I have not yet forgetten him. Now my parents want me to marry a person of their choice. No one knew about our relationship. Do you think I will forget him after marriage?

Roma
Dear Roma,
You need to move on in life like he has. Both of you have not been in touch for quite a while, so you have to let go of him.
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I understand it is proving to be very difficult for you because it is the first time you experienced love. You have still not overcome the heartbreak. But you should have been wiser to know that this was going to happen at some point of time .

He was having an extramarital affair and his wife obviously did not know about it. Imagine the consequences had his family found out.

Sense prevailed and he decided to get out even though he hurt you badly. Over time, I am sure you will overcome it. Your parents are keen to get you married. Let the past remain the past. Why ruin your present and future for what has happened? Give love another chance.

She is worried he is younger than her
Dear Diana,
My cousin's guy is three years younger than her. He does not look it and they make a perfect pair. But now this is worrying her a lot.

When elders talk about marriage, age is a question that pops up. And then it is like: "Oh, she is older than him!" He does not think it's a big deal. How can I help her?u00a0

XYZ
Dear Friend,
When your cousin's guy thinks it is no big deal, why is the age gap worrying her? Age really doesn't matter in love and the difference is just three years.

There are so many men out there who marry girls much older than them. Take Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore, for example. Your cousin needs to chill and let her guy do the talking instead.

Is he interested in me?

Dear Diana,
I met this guy during Navratri last year. We talked and kept in touch for about three months. But then his work and my studies caught up and we drifted away.

Now out of the blue, he called me to check if I would be attending Navratri at the same pandal as he will be this year.

I was taken aback but at the same time full of joy. Do you think he is interested in me? I find him cute, well behaved. I think he is my type. How do I take this forward?

Jalpa
Dear Jalpa,
He has given you a big hint, so pay heed. Work and study pressures may have forced you both not to keep in touch but it appears that he might just be interested in you. Don't worry over why he's called now and not before.

The reason is simple: he didn't have an excuse to call you before and not make it look very obvious! Navratri begins in a few days' time, so go forth.

Put your best step forward. But tread with care and don't be in a hurry to get to know him better. Play it along with him and then take it to the next level. Best of luck.