He doesn't wanna be with me; only in it for the sex!

Dear Diana,
I was in a relationship with this guy for a year-and-a-half. In all this time, he kept ditching me, two-timed me and even got physical with two girls. When I asked why, he said he was frustrated by my behaviour. We broke up because he feels I'm cheating on him, even though he's the cheater. My friends warned me about him but I didn't heed their advice.

And I don't want him back but I still love him and most importantly, I lost a year because we'd while away time when I should've been studying. I'm afraid that because I had sex with him, it might affect my future life. Will any guy accept me after knowing this? He says he loves me, but doesn't wanna be with me but is very clear that he's okay with no-strings-attached sex. What should I do?

Jaanu

Dear Jaanu,
You don't need me to tell you what to do. A guy has cheats you, doesn't trust you and wants to have sex, but not be in a relationswhip. If you want it in black and whiteu00a0-- here it is: Get rid of him. So you had sex with him. Doesn't mean you are tied to him forever. No guy will ever find out you are not a virgin if you don't tell him.
And guys these days don't care if a girl is a virgin of not. Why would a guy who loves you, not want to be with you? How convenient however, that he doesn't mind having a physical relationship. This guy is bad news. Chuck him out of your life, and don't even waste time thinking about him.u00a0u00a0

Feel bad about learning of girlfriend's infidelity

Dear Diana,
I suspected my girlfriend of cheating on me with her ex so I made a fake Facebook profile and added him. I found out she is cheating on me. Now I am feeling bad for doing something weird like this. What should I do?
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Raman

Dear Raman,
Your gut said your girl was cheating on you, and you did some detective work to confirm your suspicions. There are two types of people in life... those that have a gut feeling and act on it, and those who choose to ignore it and pretend nothing is wrong until it's too late. Don't feel bad about what you did.

Why do guys go for popular gals?

Dear Diana,
I am a 15-year-old girl. And I want to understand why guys only like the girl who is most popular? Even if she is mean? They like the easy girls. They don't care of she has had many boyfriends. They follow them around like dogs. IS it because most girls of these "popular"u00a0 girls have had sex? Just because they are pretty and easy, girls like me are left in the shadows.Why dont the popular guys look at me? Im pretty even though my nose is almost always stuck in a book. Is it that? That I like to read too much? It's not just popular guys. Even the dorky guys like the popular girl best.

Natasha

Dear Natasha,
I understand your frustration, but in your age range, boys are just a cauldron of raging, hormones, it's normal they are attracted first to what attracts them in a easy, immediate way. When they mature, they will probably still be attracted by looks first, but will learn to lookbeyond looks and appreciate something in your attitude, conversation, and general demeanour that makes an impact. In the meantime, work on your self confidence, and absolutely be yourself, - do not try to change just to become " popular." As time passes, things will get better for you, and these so called popular girls will fade away into nothingness. I have seen it happen.u00a0