Every breath I take or move I make, he's watching me...

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Every breath I take or move I make, he's watching me...

Dear Diana,
I know my guy loves me a lot and would do anything for me. Just how much, I learnt only recently. He's always

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concerned about me, about how my day went, about the problems I face on a day-to-day basis. And while it's all very nice, I'm beginning to feel suffocated in this relationship. I know this isn't what I bargained for when I fell in love. He intrudes into my meetings with friends and colleagues like he suspects me of cheating on him. I can't handle this anymore!

Nitika

Dear Nitika,
He might have seemed the perfect guy at the beginning but what really matters is his growth as a potential partner. Does he fulfil the requirements you're looking for in a spouse or a soulmate? Have you gotten to know him to a point where you know how compatible you can be at the most basic level: two people living together? Or can't you trust him? Is his overprotectiveness stifling you? If so, ask yourself if you can change him or live with that one irritating trait.

I only threatened to, but she actually broke up!

Dear Diana,
I had unprotected sex with my girlfriend yesterday. She didn't want to at first, but said yes only after I threatened to break up with her. Soon after, after it was done, she broke up with me. I intended to marry her. We are even from the same religion and caste. Why did she do this? I only wanted us to be close. Was that too much to ask for?

Param

Dear Param,
I know no other way to say this, so here goes: you're no better than someone who violates a woman's modesty. She wanted to save the intimate union for later. Was she asking for too much? Couldn't you wait? You held her to ransom. What I'm glad about is that she realised soon enough that you weren't worth the long haul and broke up with you for forcing her. My only concern is that she doesn't end up an unwed mother because of you.

But he wants to marry me!

Dear Diana,
My father recently suffered huge losses in business and when the family of the guy I was to get married to, heard of this, they wanted to call off the wedding. The guy wouldn't hear of it as he likes me more than I like him and has put his foot down and said that he'll marry me come what may. His brother even threatened my family. Should I marry into such a family regardless? Or should I follow my parents' wishes?