Don't know what to expect from this freewheelin' affair

Dear Diana,
I met a girl online, she said she was 25 years old like me. A few months of bonding later, she revealed she was 30+ and married, a year later she tells me she has two children. We still continue chatting. One day she gets a bit naughty with me -- flirty texts, hot chats, webcam fun, which leads to a blow-hot, blow-cold situation and I am not sure what this is all about.

I take it as lust and some harmless fun on the web. Then two years later, I have a fight with my parents and on the spur of the moment, took a bus and travelled 24 hours to this woman's place. She welcomed me with open arms, literally. I stayed at a hotel and she visited me the first night.

We started getting intimate and I realised it was wrong. I told her to leave. I returned home, apologised to my parents and stopped all contact with this woman. But two years later, she started wooing me to come again. She doesn't talk about marriage or love. I don't know what she wants from me. She never complains about her husband or her family life. What is this all about?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
You are probably just a distraction to her. Don't be surprised if there are more like you in her life. that would explain the blow-hot blow-cold routine. Also she is a married woman, so there will be times when she will not be available. But you have to accept that.

Yours is not a relationship where either of you owes the other an explanation. Why are you trying so hard to figure out what the future of this relationship is? It seems to be fun for you. You are not in a relationship, so you are free to enjoy it for what it is. But make sure you cut contact with her, once you start dating.

Got the stick for not sticking to resolution

Dear Diana,
I am 16. I did not stick to my New Year resolution of giving up chocolates. Now, my friends are making fun of me because of it. How do I give it back to them?

Jane

Dear Jane,
Give it back to your friends by proving ot them that you can stick to your commitment. Or simply ignore them when they tease you. The choice is yours. Although, they'd respect you more if you showed willpower, and got over your chocolate addiction.

Boss groom banna chahta hai?

Dear Diana,
I am 28. Have been working here a year now. My boss is cute, polite and very fair in dealing with all team members. Having come from a job where there was always partiality, this was a huge relief. We became good friends.

In the past two months, I've noticed a change in his behaviouru00a0-- he starts conversations about what I like, common interests, mentions that we should catch a movie togetheru00a0-- in short, stuff not related to work. This began after I once mentionedu00a0 that my parents are looking for a groom for me. I wonder if he's trying to say he's interested in me?

Neena

Dear Neena,
The question is: Are you interested in him too? If so, the next time he asks you out for a movie, say yes. And then see where it goes. Just make sure that your organisation does not frown upon office romances. Also, seeing your boss is the surefire way to get you alienated at work.

Are you ready to deal with that? Also be very sure that he is not being flirty with other girls too. Ask around discreetly if he has made a move on other girls in the past. Maybe he is just looking to have some fun, and not a a relationship. Think this through and know what you are getting into before you go on that date with him.u00a0