'My wife is not interested in sex'

I am 54 and my wife is 47. We have two college-going daughters and now for almost a decade our sex life is non-existent. My wife doesn't say anything nor does she discuss such matters with me. In fact, she never has. For her, discussing bedroom matters is taboo, but I keep wondering about the lack of intimacy between us.
- Ramesh

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Ramesh,
Many couples are faced with a diminished or non-existent sex life after years of marriage. Your wife may be so caught up in daily chores that by the time she hits the bed, she is fast alseep. If she does not talk, why don't you talk to her about it? She has got into the drudgery of daily life. Surprise her or do special things for her to win her affections again.

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