'My sister's husband wants to marry me...'

Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Diana,
I am having an affair with my sister's husband for the past year. As my hubby is out of the country most of the time, we spend a lot of time together. Things have come to such a point now that he is willing to leave my sister for me. I did not expect things to go so far. For me it was just a fling and he has got serious. I want a way out, but he is refusing to let me go.
- Jalpa

Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Jalpa,
You may say you did things in the heat of the moment, and are now not serious about it. If only all this while, you had stopped to think about your sister. You led him astray and now he has become serious about you, while you are not. You are ruining your and your sister's life. Think what if your sister finds out what her hubby and you have been up to behind her back. You will strain your relations with your family as well as his. It is best that you and your brother-in-law let go of each other. You created the mess, so you need to clear it by explaining that you two cannot have a future.